Do You Have a Fear of Growing and Changing?
by Laurie Renton

“Your Life does not get better by Chance, it gets better by Change.” —Jim Rohn

How often do you endure discomfort in a situation right now because you have a fear that comes with growing and changing? Does this fear come from previous failures or ingrained beliefs about who you are, not feeling loveable enough, dragging around something someone did to you long ago, not being able to use your imagination in a creative way, childhood stories, or simply just not knowing? 

Overcoming a fear of change can be as difficult as overcoming a fear of failure. It could be like trying to untangle your earbuds so that you can plug them into your computer when you’re in a hurry, kind of difficult. But if change makes you nervous, know that you are hardly alone and that it’s a very natural discomfort in our lives.

Each of us carries within us the capacity to make a change in the world, whether it be big or small, for better or worse. Every thought we think and every behaviour or action we make affects those around us. Would you rather become a source of inspiration and joy, or anxiety and pain? We truly do have that choice in terms of the impact we want to have in many areas of our lives, whether it be relationships, work environment, community, friendships, and the choices you make can have everlasting consequences. Is your influence positive or negative, and do you come from a place of love when making those choices?

When we are doing a good deed or we are the recipient of a good deed, doesn’t it make you want to do a good deed for someone else? One act of kindness, one thoughtful deed, or even one positive thought can pass on from one person to another, creating a shift until it becomes a group movement, or the ray of hope that could save someone’s life.

Believing in your ability to be that person, starting a chain reaction of those good deeds will flow seeds of goodness. Be aware of your thoughts and actions and bring gratitude into a situation as much as possible, that alone can create that flow which always starts with YOU. Catch yourself in the act and cultivate awareness of the changes happening around you just because of it.

Even something as simple as a smile to a stranger or a compliment to your friend or loved one, or living with laughter as something you dearly value. Or just performing a thoughtful gesture can make an enormous difference not only in the lives of those around you, but in your own life. You have the power to touch the lives of everyone you encounter and everyone those people encounter.

Learning not to fear change and embracing it with enthusiasm could perhaps be one of the most important things you could embrace to guide that change. After all, we are at a time on this planet that has constant change happening every day.

Imagine who you might become if you could let go of that fear of growing and changing and confront those inner dragons with gentle compassion, understanding, and making peace with the whole of who you are through radical self-acceptance …Just Imagine!

Laurie Renton owned her own financial services firm for 27 years. Her dream was to create a space where she could guide others through a process of getting unstuck in their lives. She acquired her leadership certification, her life coaching, as well as many other courses that led her to being a co-founder of the Visionary hub with her partner Sylvia Henheffer. Sylvia realized that her values of freedom and flexibility were not being fulfilled in her corporate job and she ventured out into entrepreneurship and into partnership at The Visionary Hub, located in Yorkton, SK. You are invited to join them in-person or online for an experience of new possibilities…it is truly transformative. For more information, visit thevisionaryhub.org, Facebook, or call (306) 783-7737. Also see the display ad on page 23 of the 28.3 September/October issue of the WHOLifE Journal.