| Letting Go
by Nina Lane
One of the biggest issues in our society is the inability to let go. The stress factors build up, and even when we’ve got a situation with no stress, we have difficulty in just sitting and letting go to unwind. Often you can only find a way to unwind with beer, wine, food, and something to entertain you. You may even find it difficult when you’re a bit nervous or tense about something to just calm yourself down. The fact is, that causes several functions in the brain to not work as well. The amygdala is one of the key factors in emotions, aggressions, control of fear responses, arousal, and the formation of emotional memories. When the amygdala doesn’t work as well, you overreact to stress and handle it badly.
Achievement and goal-oriented drive keeps us stuck in the struggle of attaining “better.” There is a subtle voice in letting go that says, “Things need to change. If this is let go of, my life will be better.” You would not need to “let go” unless you felt something was wrong in the first place. The judgment here that something is wrong or lacking. Yet, you can only begin with what you have and not with what you think is better. This is a marvellous distraction from being present.
Letting go is not getting rid of or throwing away. If I’m holding onto something that’s burning me and you say, “Let go of it!,” that doesn’t mean throw it out. I’d only need to throw it away if I’m attached to it and have a desire to get rid of it. We tend to think that getting rid of something is a way of getting rid of attachment. The “THING” is not the problem. The problem is the grasping of the thing. Letting go exercises support the process of practical action, laying aside that which has been so dominant in your life that it’s created personal and emotional stories. This shows in your physical postures, in the way that you’re carrying yourself, and in how you behave and think. This creates armouring that blocks connections, receiving, intimacy, and your connection to life.
We’ve got all these centres in the brain; one is the letting go centre. It’s part of the brain that when activated and focused on in people who have a healthy relationship to releasing, they can just think, “Oh I’ve got to let go” and they focus and completely go into relaxation, totally comfortable. But a lot of us Western people have lost that, we can’t do that. To find it again you can’t just desire to have it again; you’ve got to go through a process of different exercises and processes that will set conditions up so you can retrain your brain in finding that spot and activating it. When you can do that, it means in your daily life you’re going to have the ability to quiet yourself down, to let go without having to take an Xanax or a glass of wine or go scroll social media, etc.
Whether it be to relax you physically, or to relax yourself mentally or emotionally, it’s getting back what every human being has got and should have, but has become dysfunctional because of stress buildup. The amygdala section seems to be hot wired to your letting go centre. The amygdala makes you tense and the letting go centre relaxes, so they counter balance one another. The letting go centre can start having an influence over the amygdala complex and stop the overreaction of stress. And if you see yourself overreact, you just go to your quiet spot. As you train this centre and use it more, it gets bigger and stronger, there’s more circulation to it, it gets healthier and starts making a huge difference in the stress levels in your life and how you respond. It’ll actually help to keep your amygdala complex, your fight/flight mechanism, much calmer. When the amygdala is stressed and not being calmed by that centre, it sends that stress into the body. Stress is linked to increased free radical buildup, which can lead to infections and disease, etc. However, it is possible to change your neurophysiology. Once you get into it and once you start finding the spot, it becomes very powerful and you’ll probably experience a level of relaxation you haven’t felt for years. If you’re willing to practice it, you can continue to make it stronger and stronger.
The practice of letting go is really the practice of trusting that you are more than your roles, beliefs, and stories. When you first begin, this can feel like something quite new. This newness may feel awkward, like your first grade five dance or first awkward kiss. Letting go exercises help to embrace the newness and start the process of integration with your nervous system. Ironically, we weren’t happy with who we were and want “better,” yet fear letting go of that misery for the unknown immersion into a new experience of who we are. This is a perfect example of a crippling belief system, “Better the devil I know!”
Letting go exercises are a process you can use anytime, anyplace, to improve any area of your life. They are unique, simple, powerful, easy-to-learn and duplicate techniques that show you how to uncover your natural ability to let go of any painful or unwanted feeling in the moment.
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Allison Bachmeier’s strong interest in personal transformation is continuously nurtured by dynamically applying the principles underlying it in her daily life, both professionally and personally. Her active studies in a diverse myriad of interests continue to support the dynamic evolution of the work. Her focus and commitment lie in facilitating optimal health by addressing the root cause of conflict. She is currently instructing internationally and operating a full-time clinic. She is available for private sessions, lectures, online workshops, seminars as well as to travel to teach Reveal & Release seminars. To make an appointment for a session, a consultation, or inquire about having a training course near you, call (306) 280-8264 or email firstname.lastname@example.org or visit her website www.vibranttransformation.com.